Here's another common mistake folks make when seeking Awakening. Setting a bar, a measure that they hold their awakening against.
Often these bars are insanely high. Some go hand-in-hand with confusing sage-hood with celebrity, in other words assuming that your awakening must result in being as articulate and revered as the Buddha. Other standards include magical powers. Still others equate awakening to ascending to the heavens in an instant of dissolving into a "rainbow body."
A lot of these expectations come from (often metaphorical, or allegorical) tales of the awakened women and men of earlier years.
Other bars of achievement are set by what kind of languaging is used. In order to have realized your true self as a personal immediate experience, you have to talk about it like Ramana Maharshi did.
Another great one is expecting some sort of reaction in others. As if the fact that you have dissolved the lie of the separate self in your own living process should immediately be recognized by others and they should straight-away look to you for help. A subtler version is that other people should care at all.
All of these requirements about how one should be, or be seen after awakening move the whole matter from the "what you are" realm where awakening actually occurs, into the "how to be" realm where it does not.
What ways have you seen in others (or yourself) of setting some kind of standard for how awakening should be? Leave a comment below. I'd love to hear from you!